Skip to contentSkip to footer

Edit this title

Edit this title

I’m part of a few group text message threads. There’s one with my high school friends, one with my college friends, another with the old SURFING Mag crew.

They’re basically non-stop heckling. So much entertainment. So much distraction. So much fun.

I often find myself choking back giggles about what’s said in these virtual locker rooms, and sometimes try to explain my laughter to my girlfriend. It falls flat. You need the full context of shared experiences to really understand. It’s best-friend kinda stuff.

Then, the other day, a buddy from the college thread wrote that he and his wife just had their second child. He shared a photo and we all congratulated him, of course. But I didn’t even know they were expecting. WTF? I realized that even though I’m always communicating with these people, it’s always superficial. We never explore beneath the tip of the iceberg.

Does this happen to you, too?

Realizing this, I challenged myself to speak with 14 friends in 14 days. No text messages or emails, just phone calls or Facetimes. I’m seven days in and it’s been pretty incredible. I’m learning about new girlfriends, new jobs, new kids. Plans. Fears. Hardships. Doubts.

You know, human stuff.

We’re now a year into this pandemic and it’s been one of relative isolation. Face masks. Food deliveries. Everything from afar. Actually speaking to people has really helped me, even though I hadn’t realized I’d needed help.

Enjoyed the read?

Here's a few more good reads from our resident wordsmith.

Debutboardbags

STORIES

Debutboardbags

Did you know I have another job? I do. It’s with Stab Magazine, a surf media company that doesn’t actually make magazines. Because the internet.

Read more
Delgaudiobewitching

STORIES

Delgaudiobewitching

One of my favorite things is consuming media without context or expectations. To get a recommendation from someone you trust, stop them before they give a synopsis, and just dive in.

Read more
Dingedboards (no more)

STORIES

Dingedboards (no more)

I’ve traveled with surfboards for more than 20 years. One of my worst experiences was flying to Nicaragua with two boards, arriving at my destination to find pumping surf, excitedly unzipping my board bag only to find both boards had been broken in transit.

Read more


"Oh and call mom. Always call mom."


Like travel? Get a postcard from our resident wordsmith every Sunday! Two-min reads. No spam, just friends.

JOIN NOW